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Step Eight Introduction - soloadmin - 04-14-2025
Revised Step 8
"We identified those harmed by our substance use, considering the social, psychological, and biological impact, as well as all other forms of harm done, and became willing to make amends to them all, guided by compassion."
? Meaning and Breakdown
The original Step 8 reads:
"Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all."
Your modernized version takes this further by encouraging empathy, psychological insight, and holistic self-awareness.
✅ "We identified those harmed by our substance use..."
- This is the foundation of accountability.
- You’re taking ownership of how your actions affected others.
How to do it: List people who were hurt — directly or indirectly. Be honest but not self-condemning.
✅ "...considering the social, psychological, and biological impact, as well as all other forms of harm done..."
- Harm can take many forms — physical, emotional, financial, spiritual.
- This step invites deep reflection, not just obvious answers.
How to do it: Ask: What did this person lose? What pain did they carry? Where did my actions ripple outward?
✅ "...and became willing to make amends to them all, guided by compassion."
- The keyword is willing. You’re preparing your heart.
- Compassion — not shame — is your guiding light.
How to do it: Feel empathy for others AND for yourself. Let go of the need to “earn” forgiveness. Focus on sincerity.
? How to Practice This Step
- Make Your List: Include everyone affected by your addiction.
- Look at Full-Spectrum Harm: Not just what was done, but how it impacted others.
- Use Compassion as Your Compass: This isn’t self-punishment — it’s healing work.
- Own What You Can: Acknowledge it clearly, gently, and without excuses.
- Become Willing: No need to act yet. Readiness is the win.
⚠️ Key Insights
- Willingness First: You’re not making amends yet — you’re preparing your heart.
- All Harm Counts: This includes emotional neglect, broken trust, etc.
- Compassion Heals: Guilt may notice the damage. Compassion chooses to repair it.
❤️ Final Thought
Step 8 is the doorway to healing relationships. You’re not just recovering — you’re restoring. This step is how we bring love, truth, and care back into places we once hurt. And that’s sacred work.