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Beginner's Guide On How To Use SAVE To Beat Urges And Cravings |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 08:58 PM - Forum: SAVE - Defeating Urges And Cravings In Real Time
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Beginner's Guide to the SAVE Technique
Stopping Addictive Voice Enticements
What is SAVE?
SAVE (Stopping Addictive Voice Enticements) is a simple, powerful technique for overcoming addiction. It teaches you to separate your authentic self from the deceptive inner dialogue that tries to pull you back into addictive behavior.
The Two Minds in Addiction - The Real You (conscious mind): Wants recovery, health, freedom, and a better life.
- The Addictive Voice (subconscious or shadow mind): Tries to convince you to use again. It can sound like logic, emotions, even your own thoughts—but it's not truly you.
How to Do the SAVE Technique
Follow these five steps to use SAVE whenever a craving or urge appears:
1. Recognition
"Does this thought lead me toward or away from my addiction?"
Train yourself to notice the addictive voice as soon as it speaks. Any thought that encourages using is the addictive voice.
2. Labeling
Once you spot it, call it out.
"That’s not me. That’s my addictive voice."
3. Disputation
Don’t argue, just reject it.
"No. I’m not doing that. I choose recovery."
The addictive voice has no power unless you believe it.
4. Affirmation
Remind yourself why you quit.
"I’m free now. I choose health and peace."
5. Persistence
Repeat this process until the urge fades. It always does. Each time you do this, you get stronger.
SAVE Principles to Remember- Absolute Separation: The addictive voice is not you.
- No Compromise: You don't negotiate with addiction. No “just once.”
- Present Commitment: All that matters is your choice right now.
- Self-Reliance: You have the power to recover—yourself.
Common Challenges and Simple Fixes- "It sounds reasonable." → If it leads to using, it's the addictive voice.
- "It's so convincing." → That’s proof it’s the addictive voice. Reject it.
- "I feel deprived." → You’re not missing out—you’re breaking free.
- "Cravings are intense." → They always pass. Let them pass without giving in.
Tips for Daily Life- Morning Check-In: Remind yourself: The voice may show up. Be ready.
- High-Risk Moments: Rehearse recognizing and rejecting the voice before temptation hits.
- Write It Down: Keep a journal of wins—when you spotted and stopped the voice.
- Shape Your Space: Avoid triggers when you can—especially early on.
Why SAVE Works
SAVE doesn’t ask you to fight cravings forever. It teaches you how to disarm them by realizing they’re not really you. That’s where your freedom begins.
Quote:You are not your addiction.
You are the one who chooses wellness.
And with SAVE, you now have a powerful tool to protect that choice.
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Step Twelve Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 08:44 PM - Forum: Step Twelve
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Revised Step 12
"Having experienced significant and powerful positive transformation through these steps and the healing process they revealed to us, we make ongoing efforts to support others in recovery by sharing our experiences and practicing these principles in our daily lives and communities."
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Original Step 12:
"Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs."
This version honors that awakening while making it more accessible. Transformation becomes action — and action creates connection.
✅ "Having experienced significant and powerful positive transformation..."
- You’ve changed — deeply and meaningfully.
Reflect on it: What’s better now? What’s healed? What are you proud of?
✅ "...through these steps and the healing process they revealed to us..."
- The 12 Steps didn’t just help you quit — they helped you heal.
Use this: Return to the steps when life gets shaky. They’re a living map.
✅ "...we make ongoing efforts to support others in recovery..."
- Helping others strengthens your own recovery.
How to do it: Sponsor. Share. Be present. Be kind.
✅ "...by sharing our experiences..."
- Your story is medicine.
How to do it: Speak from the heart. Talk about your whole journey, not just the victories.
✅ "...and practicing these principles in our daily lives and communities."
- Bring your recovery values into all your spaces.
How to do it: Let honesty, compassion, and accountability guide how you treat people.
? How to Practice Step 12 Daily
- Be Available: Let people know they can come to you.
- Live Authentically: Be the same person in meetings, at work, and at home.
- Keep Growing: Read, reflect, and refine your process.
- Stay Humble: No one graduates recovery.
- Give Back: Every kind act counts.
? Key Insights- Service Keeps You Sober: Helping others reinforces your purpose.
- You Are Proof: Your life shows that change is possible.
- The Cycle Continues: Step 12 restarts the loop — and it gets deeper each time.
? Final Thought
You don’t need to be perfect to help others — just real. Share your truth, support others, and live the values that saved your life. Step 12 is not the end. It’s the launch of something bigger than you — a life of purpose, connection, and contribution.
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Step Eleven Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 08:39 PM - Forum: Step Eleven
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Revised Step 11
"We cultivated practices enhancing self-awareness, emotional regulation, and connection with our values as revealed by evidence-based research as well as our personal source(s) of inspiration, such as meditation, mindfulness and honest self-reflection, building a reserve of inner strength to overcome urges and temptations, one day at a time."
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Original Step 11:
"Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out."
This version blends science and spirituality, opening space for all belief systems while honoring the internal work of healing.
✅ "We cultivated practices enhancing self-awareness..."
- Self-awareness helps us notice triggers and patterns before they take control.
How to do it: Try mindfulness, breathwork, or journaling daily.
✅ "...emotional regulation..."
- Managing our emotions = protecting our recovery.
How to do it: Use grounding tools, pause before reacting, and ask for support when needed.
✅ "...and connection with our values..."
- Values help you live with purpose.
How to do it: Choose your core values. Check in with them daily.
✅ "...as revealed by evidence-based research as well as our personal source(s) of inspiration..."
- Combines the best of therapy, science, and spiritual growth.
How to do it: Use recovery tools, psychology, and personal meaning sources (spiritual or otherwise).
✅ "...such as meditation, mindfulness and honest self-reflection..."
- These tools calm the mind and sharpen insight.
How to do it: Start simple — even 5 minutes a day makes a difference.
✅ "...building a reserve of inner strength..."
- You’re building resilience for future cravings and emotional storms.
How to do it: Think of your inner strength like a savings account — add a little each day.
✅ "...to overcome urges and temptations, one day at a time."
- Stay present. Win the day — not the decade.
How to do it: Focus only on today. Tomorrow will come.
?️ How to Practice Step 11 Daily
- Morning Stillness: Start your day with 5 minutes of reflection, meditation, or deep breathing.
- Use Mindfulness Tools: Apps, guided meditations, or breath exercises.
- Track Emotional States: Use journals or mood logs to stay aware.
- Connect With Meaning: Whether it’s nature, spirituality, or philosophy — tap in.
- Reflect at Night: Ask yourself: “Did I live in alignment with my values today?”
? Key Insights- You’re Building Inner Strength: Daily effort adds up.
- This Step is Inclusive: Spiritual, scientific, or both — it works either way.
- Mindfulness is Recovery Fuel: The more aware you are, the more power you have to choose differently.
? Final Thought
This step takes you from surviving to thriving. Whether it’s prayer, meditation, or simply being present — Step 11 is how you build peace and power from the inside out.
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Step Ten Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 08:35 PM - Forum: Step Ten
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Revised Step 10
"We continued to monitor our physical health, psychological state, and social interactions, promptly acknowledging imbalances or inconsistencies with our chosen recovery goals and values."
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Original Step 10:
"Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it."
This updated version expands “inventory” to include physical, mental, and social aspects — making it a full-spectrum self-check practice.
✅ "We continued to monitor our physical health..."
- Wellness is foundational to recovery.
- This includes sleep, diet, movement, rest, and medical needs.
How to do it: Notice if you're pushing too hard or neglecting basic self-care.
✅ "...psychological state..."
- Our emotions and thought patterns shift constantly.
- Staying mentally aware helps prevent impulsive or destructive reactions.
How to do it: Use mindfulness, journaling, or reflection tools. Ask, “Am I reacting or responding?”
✅ "...and social interactions..."
- Are your connections helping or hurting?
- Relationships reflect your growth — or your struggles.
How to do it: Look at your tone, honesty, and behavior in daily communication. Did you show up with integrity?
✅ "...promptly acknowledging imbalances or inconsistencies..."
- The goal is early correction, not self-judgment.
- Spot a misstep? Adjust it.
How to do it: When something feels off, pause. Admit it. Reset.
✅ "...with our chosen recovery goals and values."
- Your recovery is personal. Let your values guide you.
How to do it: Regularly revisit your values. Are your actions aligned?
?️ How to Practice Step 10 Daily
- Create a Daily Ritual: Morning or evening check-ins work great.
- Stay Curious, Not Critical: Use observation instead of judgment.
- Adjust Quickly: Address problems early to prevent relapse cycles.
- Use Recovery Tools: Journals, apps, sponsors, therapy, or meetings.
- Reconnect With Your Why: Stay aligned with your deepest values.
? Key Insights- Step 10 Is Ongoing Maintenance: It keeps recovery real and grounded.
- Balance = Stability: Your body, mind, and social life all affect each other.
- Awareness is Power: When you notice, you can choose. That’s freedom.
? Final Thought
This step is your daily compass. It keeps you aligned with your purpose, values, and growth. Recovery becomes a way of living — not just something you’re surviving.
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Step Nine Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 04:31 PM - Forum: Step Nine
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Revised Step 9
"We took appropriate actions to make amends, focusing on our commitment to lasting recovery and demonstrating remorse for all offenses and betrayals, unless such amends would only cause further harm."
? Meaning and Breakdown
The original Step 9 says:
"Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."
This revised version adds intentionality, emotional intelligence, and care.
✅ "We took appropriate actions to make amends..."
- This is about putting recovery into action.
- "Appropriate" means respectful, timely, and considerate — not rushed or forced.
How to do it: Consider what each person needs — not what you want to say. Let the action fit the situation.
✅ "...focusing on our commitment to lasting recovery..."
- The motive behind your amends matters.
- This is about showing that you're becoming someone different — not just saying “sorry.”
How to do it: Keep showing up in recovery. Let your life become the proof of your sincerity.
✅ "...and demonstrating remorse for all offenses and betrayals..."
- This acknowledges emotional and trust-related harm.
- Remorse isn’t self-pity — it’s heartfelt awareness of the pain you’ve caused.
How to do it: Speak simply. Acknowledge hurt. Take responsibility. Let your tone reflect your growth.
✅ "...unless such amends would only cause further harm."
- Not all apologies are helpful — some can retraumatize or disrupt healing.
- This is where ethics and empathy guide your decisions.
How to do it: If unsure, get guidance. You can still make “living amends” through changed behavior and service.
? How to Practice This Step
- Revisit Your List: Go back to Step 8’s list and evaluate each case individually.
- Make a Plan: Decide what kind of amends are most appropriate for each person.
- Be Clear and Sincere: Take responsibility. Avoid blame or over-explaining.
- Respect Others' Healing: Sometimes the best thing you can do is stay away.
- Let Your Life Be the Apology: Stay consistent in recovery. Actions > words.
⚠️ Key Insights- This Step is Brave: You’re not hiding anymore — you’re stepping into truth.
- Remorse is Healing: It opens space for reconnection and self-forgiveness.
- Amends Must Be Thoughtful: It’s not about clearing your conscience — it’s about supporting others’ healing.
❤️ Final Thought
This is where recovery becomes relational. Where transformation is witnessed. Where healing can begin again — not just for you, but for everyone your journey touches. And that is powerful beyond words.
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Step Eight Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 04:28 PM - Forum: Step Eight
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Revised Step 8
"We identified those harmed by our substance use, considering the social, psychological, and biological impact, as well as all other forms of harm done, and became willing to make amends to them all, guided by compassion."
? Meaning and Breakdown
The original Step 8 reads:
"Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all."
Your modernized version takes this further by encouraging empathy, psychological insight, and holistic self-awareness.
✅ "We identified those harmed by our substance use..."
- This is the foundation of accountability.
- You’re taking ownership of how your actions affected others.
How to do it: List people who were hurt — directly or indirectly. Be honest but not self-condemning.
✅ "...considering the social, psychological, and biological impact, as well as all other forms of harm done..."
- Harm can take many forms — physical, emotional, financial, spiritual.
- This step invites deep reflection, not just obvious answers.
How to do it: Ask: What did this person lose? What pain did they carry? Where did my actions ripple outward?
✅ "...and became willing to make amends to them all, guided by compassion."
- The keyword is willing. You’re preparing your heart.
- Compassion — not shame — is your guiding light.
How to do it: Feel empathy for others AND for yourself. Let go of the need to “earn” forgiveness. Focus on sincerity.
? How to Practice This Step
- Make Your List: Include everyone affected by your addiction.
- Look at Full-Spectrum Harm: Not just what was done, but how it impacted others.
- Use Compassion as Your Compass: This isn’t self-punishment — it’s healing work.
- Own What You Can: Acknowledge it clearly, gently, and without excuses.
- Become Willing: No need to act yet. Readiness is the win.
⚠️ Key Insights- Willingness First: You’re not making amends yet — you’re preparing your heart.
- All Harm Counts: This includes emotional neglect, broken trust, etc.
- Compassion Heals: Guilt may notice the damage. Compassion chooses to repair it.
❤️ Final Thought
Step 8 is the doorway to healing relationships. You’re not just recovering — you’re restoring. This step is how we bring love, truth, and care back into places we once hurt. And that’s sacred work.
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Step Seven Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 04:24 PM - Forum: Step Seven
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Revised Step 7
"We actively sought and implemented evidence-based coping skills and healthy practices, while continuing to draw strength from our own unique inspirational journey to promote holistic well-being, including all facets of physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral health."
? Meaning and Breakdown
The traditional Step 7 reads:
"Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings."
Your modern version shifts the focus to empowered, integrated healing. Let’s explore:
✅ "We actively sought and implemented evidence-based coping skills and healthy practices..."
- You’re taking action — not waiting to be changed.
- "Evidence-based" means therapy, mindfulness, exercise, support groups, etc.
How to do it: Learn recovery tools. Use them daily. Build habits that support healing.
✅ "...while continuing to draw strength from our own unique inspirational journey..."
- Recovery isn’t just clinical — it’s also spiritual and meaningful.
- Your story, beliefs, and values are sources of strength.
How to do it: Reflect on what inspires you. Stay connected to your own sense of purpose and growth.
✅ "...to promote holistic well-being, including all facets of physical, mental, emotional, and behavioral health."
- True recovery touches every part of you — not just addiction.
- You’re creating balance, vitality, and wholeness.
How to do it: Care for your body, mind, and soul. Identify imbalances and gently address them.
? How to Practice This Step
- Learn What Works: Find proven tools and coping strategies.
- Make It Daily: Turn healthy actions into habits.
- Tend to All Levels: Physical, mental, emotional, behavioral — they all matter.
- Stay Inspired: Keep your journey and purpose in focus.
- Choose Wholeness: Let recovery be about thriving, not just surviving.
⚠️ Key Insights- This Step is Active: You are now co-creating your recovery.
- Science + Spirit = Strength: Use both practical tools and personal meaning.
- Recovery is Holistic: Well-being is the goal — not just abstinence.
❤️ Final Thought
Step 7 is where healing becomes integrated. You are not just staying sober — you’re becoming whole. With each tool you learn, each truth you live, you step further into your power and your peace.
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Step Six Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 04:21 PM - Forum: Step Six
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Revised Step 6
"We became willing to recognize, challenge, and modify negative and unhelpful thoughts, emotions, and behaviors perpetuating our substance use, re-aligning our thoughts, actions, and overall self-image with our personal understanding of growth, compassion, and forgiveness."
? Meaning and Breakdown
The original Step 6 reads:
"Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character."
This modern version reframes that with clarity, self-awareness, and compassion. Let’s break it down:
✅ "We became willing to recognize, challenge, and modify..."
- The key word is willing. You don’t need to be perfect — just open.
- It’s about observing and interrupting harmful inner patterns.
How to do it: Notice automatic thoughts and emotions. Pause. Ask, “Is this helpful?” Practice new responses.
✅ "...negative and unhelpful thoughts, emotions, and behaviors perpetuating our substance use..."
- This is the internal engine of addiction — beliefs, fears, and triggers.
- You’re targeting what feeds the cycle.
How to do it: Track your patterns. Look for the moments when old stories lead to harmful choices.
✅ "...re-aligning our thoughts, actions, and overall self-image with our personal understanding of growth, compassion, and forgiveness."
- This is healing in action.
- You’re becoming someone who lives in harmony with their own values.
How to do it: Define your core values. Rehearse thoughts and behaviors that reflect them — even before they feel natural.
? How to Practice This Step
- Start with Willingness: You don’t need to be ready for everything — just open to try.
- Watch Your Inner World: Pay attention to recurring thoughts and emotional patterns.
- Challenge Unhelpful Narratives: Question the beliefs that keep you stuck.
- Try Healthier Habits: Practice new ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving.
- Let Your Values Guide You: Return to growth, compassion, and forgiveness — again and again.
⚠️ Key Insights- You’re Not Broken: You’re rewiring old survival strategies.
- Readiness is Powerful: Willingness is the seed of transformation.
- Alignment = Integrity: You’re learning to live from the inside out.
❤️ Final Thought
Step 6 is where the inner shift begins. You’re becoming someone who lives in alignment with their true self — not the wounded past. Be willing. Be curious. Be kind. That’s the path to change.
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Step Five Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 04:15 PM - Forum: Step Five
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Revised Step 5
"We openly shared our self-assessment and list of harms done, including thoughts, feelings, behaviors, contributing factors, and destructive actions, with a trusted person, fostering accountability and connection."
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This expands the original Step 5:
"Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs."
This version emphasizes truth-telling, context, and connection. Let’s break it down:
✅ "We openly shared our self-assessment and list of harms done..."
- You’ve written your inventory — now you speak it.
- This is a courageous act of vulnerability and truth.
How to do it: Find someone safe and wise. Read your Step 4 aloud, uncensored.
✅ "...including thoughts, feelings, behaviors, contributing factors, and destructive actions..."
- This isn’t just a list of mistakes. It’s a full picture of what was going on internally and externally.
How to do it: Talk about how you felt, what you believed, what triggered you, and what you regret.
✅ "...with a trusted person, fostering accountability and connection."
- This is not just confession — it’s bonding.
- The right person offers support and insight, not judgment.
How to do it: Choose a mentor, counselor, spiritual guide, or trusted peer who understands recovery.
? How to Practice This Step
- Choose Someone Safe: They should be supportive and nonjudgmental.
- Be Prepared: Give yourself space and time. Don’t rush.
- Say It All: Don’t hold back. Speak what you wrote in Step 4.
- Include Emotions: Talk about the why — not just the what.
- Allow for Connection: This is a moment of deep honesty. Let it change you.
⚠️ Key Insights- This Step Shatters Shame: Secrets lose power when spoken aloud.
- Judgment Isn’t the Goal: The right person will help you process, not punish.
- Connection Heals: Being truly seen is one of the most powerful recovery experiences.
❤️ Final Thought
This step is where transformation begins. It’s not about guilt — it’s about being real with another person, breaking isolation, and allowing the truth to set you free. Courage lives here. So does connection.
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Step Four Introduction |
Posted by: soloadmin - 04-14-2025, 04:12 PM - Forum: Step Four
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Revised Step 4
"We honestly assessed the biological, psychological, and social factors contributing to our substance use and its consequences, reflecting on our values, and made a thorough and fearless list of all damage done to ourselves and others as a result of our addictive behavior(s)."
? Meaning and Breakdown
This expands AA’s original Step 4:
"Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves."
This version adds depth by including science, psychology, and values. Let’s break it down:
✅ "We honestly assessed the biological, psychological, and social factors..."
- Addiction is complex — not just a character flaw.
- This means examining trauma, mental health, social environments, and more.
How to do it: Ask: What pain was I medicating? What was I escaping? What was out of balance in my life?
✅ "...reflecting on our values..."
- This brings your true self back into the conversation.
- What do you stand for? What kind of person do you want to be?
How to do it: List your core values. Then reflect on where addiction pulled you away from them.
✅ "...made a thorough and fearless list of all damage done..."
- This isn’t just a guilt trip — it’s an honest inventory of consequences.
- You’ll list harm to others and to yourself.
How to do it: Use a journal or chart. Include who was hurt, how it happened, and how it affected them and you.
? How to Practice This Step
- Create Safe Space: Find time and privacy for reflection. Honesty needs quiet.
- Understand Your "Why": Use a biopsychosocial lens to understand how addiction happened.
- Reconnect with Values: Identify what you believe in — and how you want to live.
- List the Harm Done: Include harm to yourself, others, your relationships, your body, and your spirit.
- Be Compassionate with Yourself: You’re learning, not sentencing yourself.
⚠️ Key Insights- This Step is About Clarity, Not Shame: You’re not bad — you’re human and healing.
- It Starts the Accountability Process: Awareness is the first step to real repair.
- Trauma-Informed Recovery: Your biology, history, and environment matter. This step respects that.
❤️ Final Thought
This step is a turning point. It shows you not just what went wrong, but what matters to you. It invites you to witness your story with truth and courage — and to begin writing a new chapter, rooted in clarity and self-awareness.
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